Consider the following statements:
- I'm a
good-for-nothing – I've not accomplished much in my life, so
I'm not going to accomplish much in my future too.
- I've not had great
relationships in the past, so I'm
likely to continue to attract bad men/women into my life.
I'm doomed not to meet someone I will love and who will truly love
- I was never a
straight-A student, so I'm
simply not cut out for success, whether in my studies or other
things in the future.
- I've not faced much
success in [XXX] goal, so
I shouldn't pursue [XXX] any further since I'm probably going to
continue failing in it.
- My dad/mom/teacher
once scolded me for being
lazy/lousy/slow/stupid/incompetent/idiotic/a disgrace of the
family/[insert negative adjective], so I'm
indeed lazy/lousy/slow/stupid/incompetent/idiotic/a disgrace of
the family/[insert negative adjective].
brother/sister/friend has always been better/faster/stronger than me
when we were young, so
they will continue to be better/faster/stronger than me in the
- My relationship with
[XXX] has been declining, so it'll
likely continue to decline and I shouldn't put any effort in it.
You see, the danger here is that given that our thoughts directly impact our actions which directly impact our results, by thinking within the confines of our past results, we'll continue to act in a way that attract those results, hence attracting said results in real life. We'll then box ourselves into the archetype of "I'm not one who is able to attract love" (if you're currently facing a blockage in this area" or "I'm not cut out for entrepreneurship" (if you've been meaning to set up your own business but hasn't been able to), hence... being our own self-fulfilling prophecy.
So how do we break out of this vicious cycle? Well, by first changing our thoughts. But beyond changing our thoughts, we need to also identify the action steps to take to make things different. Because while having positive thoughts is important, we need to follow them up with the right, positive actions to make a real change in our life.
Hence, today your task is to do exactly that – change your thoughts and identify action steps in an area where you've been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in. Let's get started! :D
Your Task Today
- What is
ONE area of your life where you've been limiting yourself
or that you feel limited in? It can
be anything, from studies, to work projects, to romantic
relationships, to health, to friendships, to familial relationships.
(You are welcome to identify more than an area if you like!)
- Working: I've only worked 2 months in my whole life before going on SSI for 7 years, which I hate and does not endear me to employers.
- What is the
belief statement you've been harboring in this area? And is it
serving/helping you to accomplish your goal?
- “No one is going to hire someone who hasn't bothered to work in 7 years anyway, so why bother looking?”
- Change this
that the belief from #2 is limiting, what empowering belief(s) can
you change it to?
- “I cannot predict what employers are thinking and I have several marketable skills that I am not taking advantage of. I will definitely not get hired if I never look, but I have to give myself a chance! I deserve it!”
- Identify your
action step(s) to make the change! What
is ONE action (or more if you desire) that you're going to make to
make this new belief come true? Commit this action to a deadline,
and get working on it!
-Apply to two jobs per day that I am qualified for, regardless of whether I feel I am deserving of it
- Say your
new belief out loud, along with today's affirmation. Read
your new belief from Step #3 out loud to yourself, with full
conviction. Then, say today's affirmation with that same conviction:
"Today is a brand
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create."
I encourage you to write down your new belief(s) and today's affirmation so that you can always see them and commit them to your heart. Repeat them every day to yourself, for as many times and as long as needed, until they become part of your default thinking.